Hey Mama Let's Talk About Trauma

We’ve all heard the word “trauma,” but what does it really mean? And more importantly, how does it affect us as busy moms? Between taking care of the kids, managing the household, and maybe squeezing in five minutes for yourself (if you’re lucky), dealing with trauma can feel like just one more thing on your never-ending to-do list. But here’s the thing—it’s important, and understanding it can help you in more ways than you might think.

What Exactly is Trauma?

In simple terms, trauma is how our minds and bodies react to really "tough" experiences. It’s not just about what happens to us, but how those events get stuck in our heads and hearts. Trauma can come from big, obvious things like an accident or losing someone we love. But it can also come from things that seem smaller or happen over time, like constantly feeling overwhelmed or not having enough support.

And here’s a key point: Trauma is personal. What’s traumatic for one person might not be for another. It’s all about how you experience it, not just what happened.

The Different Kinds of Trauma

1. Acute Trauma
   This is the kind that comes from one major event—like a car accident, a sudden illness, or a big loss. It hits hard and fast, and it can leave you feeling shocked, scared, or just emotionally drained.

2. Chronic Trauma
   Chronic trauma is more of a slow burn. It’s what happens when you’re exposed to stress or danger over a long period, like living in an abusive relationship or dealing with ongoing financial stress. It wears you down little by little.

3. Complex Trauma
   This type often comes from multiple traumatic events over time, especially during childhood. It’s deep and can really mess with your sense of self and your relationships. It’s like carrying a heavy backpack full of old stuff you can’t just set down.

4. Secondary Trauma
   Ever feel drained or overwhelmed by someone else’s problems? That’s secondary trauma, which can happen when you’re supporting someone who’s been through a lot. Moms, this can happen when we’re caring for our kids or loved ones who’ve faced their own traumas.

How to Cope When You’re Already Overwhelmed

Okay, so you know what trauma is, but what can you do about it—especially when you barely have time to sit down with a cup of coffee? Here are some ideas that might help:

1. Talk to Someone Who Gets It
   Therapy can be a lifesaver. A good therapist can help you sort through your feelings and give you practical ways to cope. There are even online therapy options if getting out of the house feels impossible.

2. Find Your Tribe
   You don’t have to go through this alone. Lean on your friends, join a support group, or connect with other moms who understand what you’re going through. Sometimes just knowing someone else gets it can make all the difference.

3. Make Time for Self-Care—No, Really
   I know, I know. “Make time for self-care” sounds impossible when you’re juggling a million things. But even small moments count. Maybe it’s journaling for five minutes before bed, taking a few deep breaths in the bathroom (we’ve all been there), or treating yourself to a hot cup of tea while the kids nap.

4. Educate Yourself (When You Have a Minute)
   Understanding more about trauma can actually make it less scary. There are tons of great books, podcasts, and blogs out there that break it down in ways that make sense. Even just learning a little can help you feel more in control.

5. Get Creative
   Sometimes, words just aren’t enough. Try expressing yourself through art, music, or writing. It doesn’t have to be perfect—just let it out. It can be surprisingly healing.

6. Stick to Simple Routines
   Trauma can make life feel chaotic. Creating small, manageable routines can help you feel grounded. It might be as simple as having a nightly skincare routine or taking a quick walk around the block each day.

7. Be Kind to Yourself
   Healing is a process, and it’s okay if it takes time. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough. Some days will be harder than others, and that’s totally normal.

Let’s Keep This Conversation Going

Trauma is tough, but you don’t have to face it alone. I recently did a podcast episode talking about trauma that you can find here  Mama needs me time was developed to create a community to support you. A place to share stories, and offer a safe space to talk about what you’re going through. Remember, mama, you’re not just surviving—you’re finding your way to thrive, one step at a time. Let’s do this together.